Sierra can't go online!- Mierra Mierra Cilucci! Don't do it!- Sierra Most kids my age have the mouth of a sailor, but I'm different. I never tend to use bad words, not even little swears, like "cr*p" or "freakin''. reply Flag as inappropriate wht about hell (or is tht even a bad word)Although I hate it when children swear, I think 13 is around the age where it's OK in some situations. My teacher said to us, I don't care if you swear, just don't do it in the classroom. She was right. There is a time and place for swearing. The classroom, the workplace, church (obviously), and the dinner table are not the time or the place. It also depends on who you are with. Some people don't care how many f-bombs you drop and some people don't like the use of the phrase "holy crap". My friend and I call each other a dumb b**ch, but neither of us MEAN IT and both of us KNOW that. If you were in a verbal fight with someone, calling them a bad name would only make it worse. Also, when I'm in a bad mood, I hate my friend jokingly calling me a b**ch. One of my friends gets really offended if I say "god d*mit", so I NEVER say it around her, but if it slips out, I make sure to deliver a sincere apology. In some cases, swearing is OK. It can make a joke a lot funnier and it can defuse the anger of stubbing your toe. In conclusion, you just have to be careful with what you say and try not to offend people. reply Flag as inappropriate 5 Ways to Talk to Your Kids About Swearing -- and Why Sierra FilucciFebruary 28, 2011Categories: Cell phone parenting, Digital media and school, Healthy media habits, Social networking for kids Senior Editor, TV and DVD | Mom of two Recently, my 5-year-old and I walked into a room full of kids playing video games at a birthday party. "You suck!" shouted one kid to another. "I'm going to kick your ass!" the kid yelled back. My son looked up at me with wide eyes -- he was shocked, and I think, a bit thrilled to see bigger kids using words that he still considers taboo. For my part, I was glad he was shocked. It hasn't been easy keeping swearing out of my kids' lives. For one thing, my husband and I can let a few strong words fly when we're frustrated or forget we're in the company of kids. And some of the TV shows my kids watch on Saturday mornings tend to pepper the action with words like "stupid" and "jerk." As kids get older, they come across strong language in everything from YouTube videos to online comments. And lately, the amount of swearing on some of tweens' and teens' favorite TV shows seems to have bumped up a few notches. Preschool-age character Lily dropped the F-bomb (it was bleeped) on an episode of Modern Family, and The Daily Show is chock full of easily identified censored words. Parents can take advantage of these moments by explaining how shows (and other media) get attention for profanity -- a strategy that's part of selling a product. Kids' fascination with taboo words isn't new, of course. Around the age of 5 or 6, most kids get a big thrill out of potty language (hello, Captain Underpants!) or any word that gets a rise out of parents. This age is a great time to help kids understand that there are places where certain language is OK (like in silly books) but not in others (like at the dinner table). What kids intuitively understand is that words are powerful, and certain words make a big impact. My son certainly felt the impact of the language that the birthday party gamers were using. Explaining to him why the kids were using those words -- to shock, to feel older, to get attention -- took a bit more time. 5 Ways to Talk to Kids About Swearing -- and Why Think time and place. What might be no big deal at your house could be offensive at your best friend's place. Remind kids to keep their audience in mind when they're speaking. The language you use when texting your best buddy can be a bit looser than the words you use in a classroom or when speaking to Grandma on Skype. Expand your own vocab. You can almost always find a substitute for a curse word. Encourage kids to check out a thesaurus and find some creative alternatives to common curses or different ways to describe the feeling that's making them want to curse. (My son is saying "peanut butter" instead of "dummy." I tend to use "fig" a lot when I'm frustrated.) Words can hurt. Being called a name like "bitch" or "jerk" can sting. And just like it's not OK to hit someone or bully them, it's not OK to curse at someone to hurt them. Point out when TV characters call each other names, and ask kids how they could have handled the situation differently. Language reflects on you. Maybe some of your kids' friends think cursing makes you cool, but the reality is that someone who curses a lot tends to look immature and not at all classy. Remind kids to keep that in mind, especially when they're sending their language out into the world on social networks, online communities, etc. Limit exposure. Check out the "language" sections of our media reviews to help select TV shows, movies, games, etc. that keep the language within your comfort level. Find out how to turn off comments or access to chat rooms if kids are seeing inappropriate language on the web. (Learn more about handling swearing.) Related posts When Good Role Models Go Bad Standing Up to Cyberbullying How Video Games Helped My Kids Get Along Related tags movies, music lyrics, teachable moments, TV About Sierra Filucci Sierra has been writing and editing professionally for more than a decade, with a special interest in women's and family subjects. She has a master’s degree in journalism from the University of California at Berkeley... Read more Add comment
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